Start by realizing that not everyone is wired like you. Your matter-of-fact style may seem cold and impersonal to others. When the criticism relates to a specific person, they may be hurt by it.
Consider that some of your “facts” may not be as factual as you think. There is usually more to any situation than meets the eye.
Be aware that when you think that you’re “just being realistic,” others will hear you being negative. If all they hear is why things won’t work, they will start to tune you out.
Remember that criticism is always received more readily if the person believes that you have their best interests in mind. If you don’t have a healthy relationship, tread lightly.
What about those of you who haven’t been “gifted” in this way? You may have the gift of encouragement rather than criticism and may not understand those who are so different from you. Keep in mind that those others truly believe that “facts are our friends” and that there is no emotion attached to them. Unless you have clear evidence to the contrary, believe the best about the critic and his or her intentions. Their “gift” may not be cited in Scripture, but it can still be used to make your church or ministry better.
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Mike
