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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Frustrated by the self-serving decisions of the people you lead?</p>
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<p class="wp-block-paragraph"><img fetchpriority="high" decoding="async" class="size-medium wp-image-5645 alignleft" src="https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/Straw-225x300.jpg" alt="" width="225" height="300" srcset="https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/Straw-225x300.jpg 225w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/Straw-768x1024.jpg 768w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/Straw-500x667.jpg 500w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/Straw-800x1067.jpg 800w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/Straw-1152x1536.jpg 1152w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/08/Straw.jpg 1254w" sizes="(max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px" />I treated myself to a Frappuccino the other day, the first time I’ve had one in over 2 years. I was surprised when the barista gave me a paper straw for my drink. I know that plastic straws are a serious environmental problem, so in principle I’m in favor of paper straws. But as my straw became soggy, I had trouble finishing my drink and found myself wishing for the plastic version.</p>

<p class="wp-block-paragraph">My experience illustrates one of the biggest challenges facing churches (and many other organizations) today. Even when people know the right thing to do, they are often reluctant to make a choice that involves personal sacrifice. Instead, they will rationalize taking the easier or more comfortable option. “My use of one paper straw isn’t going to save the environment so I&#8217;ll take a plastic one.”</p>

<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Think about it. If you could wave a magic wand to fix one issue in your church, what would it be? Lack of volunteers? Poor engagement in community outreach? Low levels of financial giving? In each case, church members are aware of biblical principles and the church’s needs, but they choose personal comfort anyway. Even a reluctance to engage in a discussion about a controversial topic is often just a choice to avoid discomfort.</p>

<p class="wp-block-paragraph">There aren’t any quick fixes for these issues, but there is a solution. At the risk of giving the expected &#8220;Sunday school&#8221; response, the answer is Jesus. Seriously. What else will  cause people to consistently sacrifice their own desires and comfort for others? </p>

<p class="wp-block-paragraph">How will a congregation become serious about following Jesus? We love stories of a life suddenly changed in a worship service, but these are the exception, not the rule. Moving the needle for an entire congregation occurs through consistent Bible study, life-on-life discipleship, and prayer. Embedding this into the DNA of a congregation requires intentionality and consistency over a long period of time.</p>

<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Am I saying that a church shouldn’t have a special emphasis on volunteer recruitment or generosity or mission involvement? Not at all. But I am saying that pastors and ministry leaders should invest at least as much energy to create a culture of ongoing discipleship. Without this, it’s just too easy to choose comfort … and plastic straws.</p>
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		<title>Examining Discipleship More Deeply</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 15 May 2019 11:09:45 +0000</pubDate>
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<p class="wp-block-paragraph">I’m troubled by the results of a recent <a href="http://lifewayresearch.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/04/Report-Pastors-Discipleship-Sept-2018-.pdf">study
by Lifeway Research</a>. In a survey of 1,000 Protestant pastors, 65% answered
that they were satisfied with the state of discipleship and spiritual formation
in their congregations. I’m less troubled by the 35% that are not satisfied
than I am by the 65% that seem to think that things are going well. How is this
possible when so many churches are experiencing flat or declining attendance,
when 1.5 times a month is considered regular attendance, and when many congregations
do not experience a single adult baptism in a year?</p>


<p class="wp-block-paragraph">To be fair, only 22% of the survey respondents
“strongly agreed” that they were satisfied, with the other 43% saying they
“somewhat agreed.” But the survey also reported that 83% of those churches have
an “intentional plan for discipleship” and that 55% regularly evaluate
discipleship progress. I’m sure that Lifeway is accurately reporting the
results, and I believe that they know how to get a representative sample for a
survey. But these results don’t match what I see in churches.&nbsp;</p>


<p class="wp-block-paragraph">It seems that the survey is based strictly on the
subjective impressions of the pastors, which are prone to confirmation
bias.&nbsp;This kind of optimism is more than just seeing the proverbial glass
as half full. It is insisting that the glass is almost completely full and
ignoring any evidence to the contrary.&nbsp;</p>


<p class="wp-block-paragraph">In ministry settings, it is easy to fall into confirmation
bias. The gospel, at its core, is a message of hope, so we should be
optimistic. Add to this the reality that much of what we do in ministry is
inherently difficult to assess. This makes it easy for ministry leaders to rely
on superficial analysis and anecdotal information to support their
predisposition to believe the best.</p>


<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Here’s the problem. When we’re satisfied, we’re
likely to leave things as they are and not make needed changes. Consider a
church in which the number of people participating in some type of Bible study,
Sunday school, or small group is about half of its average worship attendance.
The pastor knows that this is “above average.” In addition, one small group
leader shares a story of life transformation for a member of the group. So the
pastor concludes that the congregation’s discipleship is effective and only
needs minor tweaks.</p>


<p class="wp-block-paragraph">I would look at the same church and say that we
don’t know whether discipleship is effective.&nbsp;I would want to know more
about the spiritual growth in all the groups and whether newcomers to the
church are getting plugged in. I would want to see evidence that people are
growing in their generosity and their willingness to serve. This information
isn’t the whole story, but it is more robust than the simple picture in the
previous paragraph.&nbsp;</p>


<p class="wp-block-paragraph">So here is a challenge. In your next leadership
team meeting, ask the first question from the Lifeway survey: “I am satisfied
with the state of discipleship and spiritual formation in our church.” Once
each person has responded, ask them to explain their rationale. If you’re
not&nbsp;<em>satisfied</em> with what you hear,&nbsp;then dig deeper.&nbsp;</p>


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