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		<title>&#8220;Eyes Up&#8221; Leadership</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 17 Apr 2023 07:01:00 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>Leaders need to keep their eyes on the horizon. Easier said than done. Just ask a basketball point guard.</p>
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									<p><img fetchpriority="high" decoding="async" class="alignleft" src="https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/Basketball-2-200x300.jpg" alt="Leading with your eyes up" width="200" height="300"><span style="color: var( --e-global-color-text ); font-family: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-family ), Sans-serif; font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-weight );">The primary job of a point guard in basketball is to bring the ball up the court, read the defense, and set up a play to give their team the best chance of scoring. One phrase that highlights this vital skill is “eyes up.” Even as they are dribbling and preventing the opposing defender from stealing the ball, the point guard needs to look up, scanning the court to find an opportunity for a pinpoint pass. The tendency is to look down at the ball rather than at the horizon. Great players make this look effortless, but it’s much more difficult than it appears.</span><span style="color: var( --e-global-color-text ); font-family: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-family ), Sans-serif; font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-weight );">&nbsp;</span></p><p><span style="color: var( --e-global-color-text ); font-family: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-family ), Sans-serif; font-weight: var( --e-global-typography-text-font-weight );">Does this sound like your role as a pastor or ministry leader? It takes a great deal of time and effort to keep the ball(s) bouncing – all of the regular tasks and activities that must be done well in your church or ministry. You also need to keep an eye on the opposition – whoever or whatever that threatens to keep your church or ministry from moving toward its mission. But to do your job well, you must keep your eyes up – looking beyond the bouncing balls of routine tasks to see new and exciting opportunities.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">This may sound impossible, but so does the job of a basketball point guard. Here are four lessons that bounce directly from basketball to ministry leadership:&nbsp;</p>
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<li class="MsoNormal" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in; vertical-align: middle;"><i>Practice</i>. Knowing that a skill is important is not the same as developing the skill. Great point guards have learned through hours of practice to dribble with their eyes up. “Eyes up” leadership might be developed through intentional balcony time or interactions with forward-thinking, creative people. How are you expanding your “eyes up” capacity?</li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in; vertical-align: middle;"><i>Know your role</i>. The best point guards understand their roles. They know what they must do well, and what they don’t need to do. In a sport that celebrates points scored, it can be difficult to focus on making good passes and letting others take the shot. But that is the role of the guard. Do you have the same clarity about your role?</li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in; vertical-align: middle;"><i>Build a great team</i>. The point guard’s abilities are useless if they are not surrounded by teammates with complementary skills. This requires both assembling the team and building the chemistry where team members trust each other to play their respective roles. Do you have the right team? Does your team have the chemistry that leads to great results?</li>
<li class="MsoNormal" style="mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; tab-stops: list .5in; vertical-align: middle;"><i>Learn from a coach</i>. Great point guards are developed by coaches who see their potential and help them take the right steps to reach that potential. A coach notices things that the guard will have difficulty seeing. Who do you trust to both encourage and challenge you?</li>
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<p class="MsoNormal">The point guards that receive the most attention during March Madness have incredible skills, in the top 1% or better. That level of expertise may be unattainable for most other basketball players, but that shouldn’t keep them from improving their skills. The same is true for your leadership &#8211; you may not become a top 1% leader (whatever that means), but you should always be eager to learn and grow. Eyes up!</p>								</div>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 18 Jan 2022 12:41:22 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>It took a while, but I finally gave up and decided that a nagging Achilles tendon problem was not going away. I had tried to&#8230;</p>
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									<p><img decoding="async" class="size-medium wp-image-5690 alignleft" src="https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Blah-blah-300x225.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="225" srcset="https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Blah-blah-300x225.jpg 300w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Blah-blah-1024x768.jpg 1024w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Blah-blah-768x576.jpg 768w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Blah-blah-1536x1152.jpg 1536w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Blah-blah-500x375.jpg 500w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Blah-blah-800x600.jpg 800w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Blah-blah-1280x960.jpg 1280w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Blah-blah.jpg 1672w" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" />It took a while, but I finally gave up and decided that a nagging Achilles tendon problem was not going away. I had tried to ignore it and continue running, as I would have done when I was younger, and that didn’t work. I tried rest, taking several weeks off from exercise, but that didn’t help either. So I finally asked my doctor if I should try physical therapy. He referred me right away.</p><p>Why did it take me so long to seek out the help of someone with expertise in physiology? The excuses I made about my physical condition sound a lot like ones I’ve heard from leaders about their developmental needs:</p><ul><li>“I know what I need to do.” Having been a runner since my teens, I have dealt with a variety of injuries. It’s easy for me to convince myself that I either know the right treatment or can find it online.</li><li>“It will get better” (or “It’s not that bad”). I probably should have contacted my doctor at least a month earlier than I did, but I was convinced that I just needed to give the injury more time to heal. Time flies, especially when we’re ignoring something we don’t want to do.</li><li>“I don’t want to be embarrassed.” The process of getting help required me to admit that something was wrong, to try something new (PT), and to attempt exercises where I might “fail.” Sometimes I’d rather tell myself that everything is fine rather than step into the unknown.</li><li>“I don’t have time.” I eventually invested over 20 hours of my time in PT during a season when I had a lot of other things on my plate. I would have been justified in saying I didn’t have the time, but that excuse wouldn’t have healed my injury.</li></ul><p>Leaders who make these excuses usually know that something is missing or isn’t working in their leadership, but they hesitate to ask for help. The truth is that just like PT for an injury, some sort of outside help is often the best way to address a leadership need. The help might come from a colleague, a board member, a friend, or a coach. It’s unlikely be a quick fix. But as I found once I finally went to PT, the help you get is likely to get you back on the right foot. </p>								</div>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 14 Jan 2021 15:41:04 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[<p>I frequently hear conversations about the need for better leaders and better leadership development. Those conversations are often accompanied by hand-wringing because many of the&#8230;</p>
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<p><img decoding="async" class="size-medium wp-image-5478 alignleft" src="https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Coaching-300x200.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="200" srcset="https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Coaching-300x200.jpg 300w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Coaching-1024x682.jpg 1024w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Coaching-768x512.jpg 768w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Coaching-500x333.jpg 500w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Coaching-800x533.jpg 800w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Coaching-1280x853.jpg 1280w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Coaching-1536x1023.jpg 1536w, https://mikebonem.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/01/Coaching.jpg 1732w" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" />I frequently hear conversations about the need for better leaders and better leadership development. Those conversations are often accompanied by hand-wringing because many of the current approaches for developing leaders aren’t working. My answer to this challenge is a single word: <em>coaching</em>. Coaching is one of the highest leverage investments available for a leader’s growth.</p>

<p>What is coaching? The International Coaching Federation defines coaching as <em>partnering with clients in a thought provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential</em>.  Building on this definition, the best coaching is client centered, growth oriented, and results driven.</p>

<p><em>Client centered</em> coaching is based on each client’s unique needs and context. It focuses on the specific opportunities and challenges the individual wants to address, not a pre-determined template. <em>Growth oriented</em> is anchored in the belief that every person can improve as a leader. Coaching creates forward movement that catalyzes growth in essential leadership knowledge and abilities. <em>Results driven</em> coaching leads to positive, tangible outcomes for the leader and the leader’s church or ministry.</p>

<p>What are some of the topics that arise in leadership coaching? The client may need to manage staff more effectively. She may need to discover new ways to handle conflict rather than retreating when it occurs. He may struggle with setting priorities, either organizationally or personally. The beauty of a coaching relationship is not just the immediate impact of addressing a specific challenge. Clients continue to reap the benefits of new or improved skills and greater self-awareness long after the coaching engagement ends.</p>

<p>In his new book, <em>Tempered Resilience</em>, Tod Bolsinger says, “To lead alone usually results in either a failure of nerve or a failure of heart.” He then makes the bold statement that it should be considered “leadership malpractice” for a pastor to lead without professional support (from a coach, therapist, spiritual director, or mentor). Could a coaching relationship be the key that will unlock your growth as a leader?</p>

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